Parenting Henri

this is about henri, and the parenting thereof

the witching hour 2009/09/30

it’s true. the witching hour actually exists.  today, henri was A-dorable from the time i got home around 2 or so, until around 5-ish, at which point he started “thrashing” himself on to the floor, Jack Black style, while simultaneously jumping in and out of his turned-upside-down (kid) armchair, until he hit his head on the corner of the coffee table.  he started crying, but then realized it would be more comforting just to lie on the floor, face-down, and play dead.

OMG. i have never witnessed such a transformation.  sure, he’s hungry, tired, bored…blah blah blah.  i get it.  so that means he goes insane?  becomes a rock star? practically slices his left ear off?  aren’t there easier ways to get attention…?

emo henri

emo henri

call me crazy. but i’m a fan of words, and using them.  how old does he have to be before he can understand the phrase, “MOM. PAY ATTENTION TO ME. NOW.”  the kid knows what a compost is. he’s recognizes about ten letters and the numbers 4 and 2.  i think he can learn to say “yo, i need some lovin’ biyatches.”

wait.  is this some sort of genetic malfunctioning i’ve passed down? the inability to ask for help (or anything else) when you need it…?  uh-oh. get the baby meds. let’s stop this “nervous breakdown” before it happens…


sleepy but stubborn… 2008/03/12

Filed under: schedulicious,sleep is overrated — lee lee @ 2:38 pm

(…or maybe he just has gas…?)

now that we’ve upped his formula intake once again, henri has actually somewhat settled into a sleeping schedule on his own. well, i’m not there during the day… but, at night, he falls asleep right after his 9/9:30 bottle and sleeps until 2 or 2:30 AM. we feed him (and by “we” i mean “mark”) 4 oz. and he goes back to sleep right away. then, he usually sleeps until 6:30…sometimes longer, especially if i rock his bouncy seat a little while. (of course, all this goes out the window if his tummy hurts, like last night…but i do not want to talk about that right now!!!).

i guess that’s not too bad of a sleep schedule, even though the doctor did say he should be able to sleep for 5 hours after his last evening bottle.

as for going to sleep on his own, i don’t think we’re quite ready for that one. he is just learning to put his pacifier in his mouth on his own, which is a definite step in the right direction. but, i can’t imagine him falling asleep or falling back asleep without patting or rocking of some sort. besides the fact he has to be swaddled so tight you could throw him like a football without the blanket coming undone to sleep at all. as i may have previously mentioned: we’ve created a monster. but–i believe he will progress to other sleep habits when he is ready.  maybe i have to believe that???

although– mark did buy a couple books on baby sleep this past weekend. i tried to read one, but i was too sleepy to read much past the first page. 😦


no one told me babies were this much work!!! 2008/02/21

Filed under: schedulicious,working mom — lee lee @ 6:27 pm

ha ha…

now that i have a job again, everyone has their panties in a wad about getting to and fro’ work and how often henri has to leave the house/drive around the city. may i remind you that emma had to accompany her papi to various places to accommodate everyone’s schedule for about the first three years of her life ??? now, i know you all thought it would be different since henri is such a “special” child (and by special, i mean he CRIES WHENEVER THE CAR IS NOT MOVING AT OR ABOVE 40 MPH)…but we are all the same crazy, workaholic, not-so-special family…so, i don’t know why you got your hopes up.

actually, i think he likes leaving the house. s t r a n g e, since no one else around 43 early ave does. but–already–he is such a little individualist. a mother has to be proud of that.

and while we’re on the subject of schedules, or, rather, the lack thereof: i will say that (as with anything parent-related, i’m sure) my rigorous standards have relaxed quite a bit. i think it took a little while for me & henri to get on the same page and in the same groove…but, the more i get to know him, the more i know whether he’s crying because he’s starving to death or because he’s bored or because he’s tired or because everyone in the room doesn’t have their eyes glued to his adorable face.  in general, though, he gets hungry about every 2 hours, 15 minutes (i only know this statistic because of the WONDERFUL Itzbeen), even after we increased him to 4 oz every feeding. but it’s terribly difficult to feed him more than 4 oz, due to his “falling asleep while eating” habit. oh well; he seems [much more] content and he is pretty much a happy baby these days, so i think we’re doing a damn good job. (also, whenever i get around to/have capabilities to post some more current pics–you will see he is not just “happy,” but Fat and Happy.)

i don’t feel bad about those first few weeks of him being a tad bit hungry, though. after what he put me through in the labor room…he deserves it!!! (JUST KIDDING, HENRI)


i demand to continue on a feeding schedule! 2007/11/29

Filed under: schedulicious — lee lee @ 1:03 pm

apparently, strict feeding schedules are a hallmark of fundamentalist child-raising policies.  and, yes, i do mean policies.  they have a guidebook–much like the Bible, only God didn’t write this one–that spells out exactly how to raise your child so that they become a Bible-believing, God-fearing, “I-don’t-play-with-my-food” adult.

strict & scheduled feedings are only one requirement among myriad other “I’m the Parent, Goddamnit” type rules such as planned alone playtime and spanking.

of course, it’s all about power: God has power over man; man has power over woman; and parents have power over children.  mmmmmmmmm…family.  it really warms my heart.

fortunately, i hadn’t read this document before following henri’s pediatrician’s advice to keep him on a schedule, or i probably would’ve balked more.  i know “demand feeding” is all the rage among those free-loving breastfeeding moms, but i really think the schedule is the right thing for us.  imagine how difficult it would be to regulate his intake with four different caregivers feeding him whenever he cried or suckled.  t’would be difficult, since, so far, he hasn’t stopped suckling! the boy loves to suckle!  he suckles immediately after finishing an entire bottle!!!

and: lastly…  if demand feeding is so good for breastfeeding moms because it helps them regulate their milk supply, blah blah blah…then, schedule feeding is just as good for bottle-feeding moms, because i need to regulate my budget!

so, yeah. those are my reasons.  and I’M NOT A FUNDAMENTALIST! promise 🙂


need…more…clocks… 2007/11/27

Filed under: schedulicious — lee lee @ 4:02 pm

now i remember why i resisted momhood for so long…from the moment the kid pops out of you, you’re on a schedule. life is no longer your own; TIME is your master.

the darn feeding schedule is enough to drive you mad. (and IS, in fact, driving the ever-hungry henri mad.) i’m constantly looking at the clock and calculating how many more hours it will be ’til he can have a bottle. when he wakes up wimpering at night, the first thing i grab is my phone (i don’t even *have* a clock in my bedroom…!!) to see what time it is. and, already, we’ve experienced the “plan ahead for the number of hours you’ll be gone” conundrum. as a parent of a bottle-fed baby, you just can’t decide to have lunch out on a whim…unless you’ve brought along extra supplies, that is.

of course, i hate [working] clocks more than most people. but i’d be willing to bet the schedule thing is the #1 biggest adjustment for all new parents. i don’t care how structured your life is nor how rigorous your schedule; you aren’t a slave to time until you have a screaming, red-faced kid who thinks 3-4 hours between bottles really means somewhere around 2 1/2.